2, 3 years old the child's mother will find that, the baby will inevitably lie. In fact, the baby lying and adult is different, this and their thinking and psychological development of the relevant characteristics. Generally speaking, 2 ~ 3 years old baby lying generally have the following six big reason.
The baby readme: fish tank broke, mom will play my ass
The dog dog basket that only red ball is so nice, but, I just pick up, the dog dog blunt I "bow-wow!" To keep call, frighten me to be cut and ran.
"Ouch!" My head, are killing me! Listen to "bang!" Sound, the table aquarium unexpectedly fell to the ground, the floor is all wet, small goldfish in the ground move up and down move up and down to touch. This really is how to return a responsibility? Bad! Mother came over, pointing to the ground breaking aquarium asked me, "how's that?" I remember the last time I pour the milk into flower pot, mother also played my ass. This if know that I crashed aquarium, and want to make my ass, I hurried to tell mother: "be the dog dog crashed!"
The baby mentality click: children don't honesty is the result of fear
Philosopher Bertrand Russell said: "the kid dishonest almost always fear the results." The famous American children psychologist base nott analysis the cause of children lie also said: "lie is children for fear of the truth being scolded and seek refuge." 2 ~ 3 years old children already have some basic right and wrong judgment, when they found themselves do wrong, instinctively afraid of subsequent punishment. Especially there have been doing wrong be scolded, punishment of experience. As the story shows, when mom problem aquarium is who break, he instinctively think about the last time make mistakes is mother spanking scenarios. Therefore, in order to avoid punishment, will be fabricated lies to conceal errors.
Mother coup attack:
1. A delaying tactic. Don't let the children to speak the truth and 1 vigorously cross-examination, and that will only make the child lie made more and more round.
2. Builds comfortable environment. For children to create a said the truth of easy environment, tell children people will make mistakes, should brave admit that, next time attention to go,
3. First praise reprocessing. When a child active said after the truth, the first to praise the child's honest, then properly handle the children's mistakes.
The baby readme: is it an elephant take me fly back
On Sunday my father took me to the zoo. The zoo is fun, lion, hippo, elephants, rhinoceroses... Oh, see me dazzling. Yi? Why do animals and people grow different? Why do the white swan has a full feather and big wings? Why did the elephant is not long wings, it also could bring I fly home?. The day passed quickly, haven't time will come home, I proudly told mom: "is the elephant take me fly back."
The baby mentality click: imagine instead of reality
2, 3 years old children, knowledge gradually extensive, emotional, language ability gradually development, also is unusually rich imagination. With wings elephants, and a house large refrigerator, such a powerful and unconstrained style imagination in the age of the children is very common. They often according to their wishes to fantasy, to imagine instead of reality. This age children to all sorts of things are interested, but because life experience less, the lack of knowledge, plus memory is not accurate, imagine tend to be emotional, to some things resolution not clear, appear imagination and reality of confusion, lying just at this time the heart wish expression comes out, the behavior and the child's conduct has nothing to do.
Mother coup attack:
1. With encourage meet children's desire. Encounter this kind of situation, try to use the language of incentive, such as: "the elephant take you fly back, you are too proud!" To meet the desire of children.
2. To teach a child to identify the reality and imagination. Next, help children to distinguish what is fantasy, what is reality, and teach children how to express imagination and desire.
The third reason lies: understand the psychological dislocation
The baby readme: the teacher praised me are good children
Xiao-he put a red toy car brought to the kindergarten, very proud! If I have a car is good. Hey hey, the opportunity to now, while he see picture book of kung fu, I picked up the toy car. And, behold, xiao-he stood up suddenly and I rob. I but so-called "strong man", which he had robbed me, so he a stagger fell to the ground, and then "cry" burst into tears. Oh, I am not deliberately let him fall. The teacher quickly raised xiao-he coax him cry.
Looking at one side logy I, the teacher said softly: "rob children what is not right, next time changed or good boy." Yi? The teacher praised me is the boy. My heart this beauty. Back to the home immediately broke the news to his mother.
The baby mentality click: psychological illusion let the baby misread what others say
Piaget's cognitive development theory is that, 2 ~ 3 years old of children's cognitive development in former operational stage, individual have started to use simple language symbol engaged in thinking, has the image thinking ability, but can't fully understand the meaning of the language. Understand the psychological dislocation occurs in this age of children. Refers to the objective things children lack of awareness of and produce the psychological illusion, thus spoke and objective the facts words. As the story of the baby, the teacher's objective evaluation as the praise, appear "lying" phenomenon.
Mother coup attack:
1. Don't blow the child's enthusiasm. For this kind of "lying" phenomenon, parents cannot act with undue haste, should help the child to analyze the true meaning of adult word, eliminate the child's fuzzy understanding.
2. Obedient training. In daily life, can and children obedient training, make the child understand what other people say. For example: nini is a good boy, but today made a mistake. ", similar to such turning sentence, help children comprehensive analysis this sentence to express what what. The child's obedient ability gradually raised, this kind of lying phenomenon will automatically eliminate.
The baby readme: actually, I haven't finished
In the kindergarten, the teacher let you draw a big red apple. "Draw good kid please raise your hand." "I draw good!" My first raised his hand. The teacher smiling nods to me. My heart this o beauty, I am the children the best one! But, have never thought, the teacher still let me put the painting good red apple show everybody. "No!" In fact I didn't draw play, this how can do ah.
The baby mentality click: desire drives the baby said "talk about"
The baby in the adult's caress and tease, desire and performance ability and initiation, development together. The preschool period, the child's desire more strongly. When a child to learn a new song, drew a satisfactory picture, will take a new building style or will do a new game, will be happy to parents display. Desire can enhance the baby's self consciousness and self-worth, and at the same time transfers baby learning enthusiasm and initiative. Children in the strong desire of driven by, will not consciously tell some unrealistic "talk about", these "talk about" are often parents understand for lying.
Mother coup attack:
1. Encourage baby's desire. Parents should first with encouraging words and deeds help children consolidate, the development of his desire and performance ability, improve their self-confidence and enthusiasm. Such as: "the baby really great, dare to speak his mind."
2. Cultivate children to objective self-perception. The next for children to give an objective evaluation, and gradually raise children objective cognition of self.
The reasons lie five: words and deeds by adult influence and lying
The baby readme: who let mother cheated me
Aunt wang that you would step call about a mother go out to have a dinner, my mother said she was ill do not go. Right ah, mom was not sick ah. "Mom, you which sick?" My words haven't say that finish, mother will finger "hiss" let me don't make a sound. One night, neighbor children call let me come out to play, I will tell her I was ill. Mother said: "the child no lie!" I'm not lying ah, this is the last time my mother and aunt said ah.
The baby mentality click: adult a careless lie affect children
Children imitate ability is very strong, the adult in social activities a careless lies, may be the baby imitation. If parents often in the presence of the baby's face say little white lies, later children meet similar situation will lie. Another kind of circumstance is parents sometimes casual said a word to cash for various reasons, such as some parents promised Sunday took the kids to play in the park, but due to the emergency or special cases failed to achieve, the child will think adults is lying, I later can also be lying.
Mother coup attack:
1. Reflect on his words and deeds. Example is better than precept. When parents tell their children want to say "the truth", to reflect on whether they give children set up a good example. On the basis of finishing his words and deeds.
2. Serious promise. Promise the child was about to earnestly implement, if can't cash to your children explain the reason, obtains the child's understanding.
The causes of lying six: in order to please their parents and tell a lie
The baby readme: got a small red flowers mother always this praise me
Mother is always in front of my face kua neighbor's little sister can sing will jump and good-looking. She never praised me, piss me off! Neighbor's aunt see me said: "the little girl, more clever!" Listen to my heart this beauty. But mother said: "you don't know that no person the child how naughty."
Hum! In the mother's eyes I this also is not good, that is bad. Today in the kindergarten teacher teach us shear small red flowers. I secretly put a little red flowers into his pocket.
After coming home, I told mom, today I performance good, the teacher reward me a small red flowers. Mother kua I is really a good boy, my in the mind the beauty.
The baby mentality click: parents expect too much for children
Some parents of children is demanding, if the children to behave well would be very happy to meet all requirements of the children, if a child does not meet expectations will be scolded child, in the long run, the child in order to please their parents will lie. And if parents don't know, let the child lying success, tasted the sweet taste, can strengthen children's lying behavior.
Mother coup attack:
1. Check their own expectations is reasonable. In the face of the child such lying behavior, parents want to check their children to request to be whether appropriate, expect to whether reasonable, the appropriate expectation is the driving force behind the progress of children, but if you expect beyond the limits to children, can let the child to form psychological pressure, resulting in the occurrence of bad behavior.
2. Give children unconditional love. The child's bad behavior is due to the love of parents have conditions of perception, let children feel the parents unconditional love and full of respect, the child will be healthy development.
